Healthy "U" March Newsletter
by Staci Brennan, Associate Director of Athletics
It has been almost five years since police knocked on the front door of Sharon Love's Cockeysville, Maryland home and asked if she was Yeardley Love's mother. Moments later she learned that her youngest daughter, a 22-year-old senior at the University of Virginia, had been found beaten to death in her apartment.
The details of Yeardley's death are numbing, but equally numbing was the revelation that the primary suspect was her on-again, off-again boyfriend, a fellow UVA student. For the next two years the case drew national attention and led to state and university reforms for reporting domestic violence. On February 22, 2012, Yeardley's ex-boyfriend was convicted of second degree murder and sentenced to 23 years behind bars.
Looking back it is clear to Love that her daughter was in an abusive relationship but, at the time, many of the warning signs were missed. Wishing she would have done more a couple of years ago to intervene, Love is doing what she can now to help others in abusive relationships. She and her oldest daughter, Lexie, co-founded the One Love Foundation just one month after Yeardley's fatal attack. The focus of the Foundation is to honor Yeardley's memory and to educate young people, particularly between the ages of 16-24, about relationship violence.
In their first big initiative, this past fall the Foundation partnered with the Baltimore Ravens and launched a film based curriculum for high school and college students called Escalation. During this 90-minute workshop, students watch a feature film which vividly illustrates the escalating signs of relationship violence. Then, after the film, students participate in a discussion group that is led by a trained One Love facilitator. The goal during this part of the workshop is to have an open, honest and meaningful conversation about relationship violence, talk about the warning signs, and discuss ways to create change on college campuses.
The Escalation curriculum is just one component of the One Love Foundation's effort to educate and motivate young people. The belief is -- the more people who know about relationship violence and how dangerous it truly can be, the more likely they will be to intervene and potentially save lives.
Currently, our Title IX Committee is working with the One Love Foundation to bring the Escalation workshop to our campus. If you are interested in becoming a facilitator, please contact Carol Wuenschel, Title IX Coordinator.
Click here for more information about the One Love Foundation.
by Staci Brennan, Associate Director of Athletics
BUILDING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
At the beginning of a relationship everything is new and exciting. Feelings are running high and love is in the air. This is usually known as the honeymoon stage. You get butterflies in your belly before a date or goose bumps when your new partner calls or sends you a text, but how long does this stage really last? There is no exact science, however it's important to build healthy patterns during this time so there is a solid foundation for the future. Creating this foundation should revolve around the following characteristics:
* Respecting each other and respecting each other's privacy
* Trusting each other
* Supporting each other
* Listening to each other
* Feeling safe and comfortable with each other
Changes that occur outside of your relationship (e.g. a new job, project, family matters, etc.) will at some point affect what you want and/or need from your partner. With this in mind, as the months go by it's a good idea to occasionally set aside time to check in with each other and talk about expectations for the relationship. By facing this head on, you can hopefully avoid future misunderstandings.
It's inevitable that there will be disagreements and conflicts in a relationship, but how you go about resolving them is extremely important. This requires honesty, healthy communication, and being able to see your partner's perspective. Here are some guidelines for resolving conflicts:
*Family History: Couples often discover that they, as individuals, tend to resolve conflicts the same way they were resolved in their families. If your family wasn't great at settling arguments and you find yourself following that same pattern, take this opportunity to try a new approach.
* Take a Time-Out: It's not uncommon for one partner to need time to cool off during a heated discussion. By stepping away, you can regroup and gather your thoughts.
* Agree to Disagree: There will be times when you and your partner may never completely agree on certain issues. Instead of having the same argument over and over again, agree to disagree, respect each other's feelings and opinions, and compromise.
Listen: Be a good listener. This means not interrupting and focusing on what your partner has to say before responding.
MAINTAINING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
For any relationship to stay strong both you and your partner need to put in the work. Below are some tips to help maintain a happy, healthy and satisfying relationship:
* See things from the other's point of view
* Accept differences between each other
* Celebrate each other's accomplishments
* Spend time apart with friends and family
* Be willing to negotiate
* Appreciate each other
* Treat your partner in ways that say "I love you and trust you."
Information found in this article was obtained from the following sources: www.loveisrespect.org, www.breakthecycle.org, www.thehotline.org, www.helpguide.org, www.scienceofrelationships.com
Relax and learn stress reduction techniques by meditating with Beth O'Malley in the McHenry Interfaith Prayer Room, Coffman Chapel basement, Mondays and Thursdays, 1:40-2:10 pm. There will be no meditation during spring break. All are welcome!!
The Dance Studio in Gambrill Gymnasium is reserved for yoga sessions Wednesday nights, 5:15-6:15 pm for the spring semester. The last class ends April 29. Class will not be held March 11 due to spring break. Free yoga classes are sponsored by Sol Yoga.
Hood Walking Group
- Still Walking on Tuesdays
Hood's walking group leaves at noon from the fountain at Gearey Alumni Plaza (between Alumnae Hall and Hodson). The
group walks for approximately 30 minutes rain or shine.